Something I've learned so far is the minute you tell someone you're adopting, they have a story to share. And boy have I heard some crazy ones!
A neighbor recently told me about a friend of hers who got a knock on their door. It was a woman from down the road who they had seen but never really interacted with who proceeded to tell them she was pregnant, was unable to parent and wanted them to adopt her baby! Can you believe that?! Come to find out yesterday that same couple got pregant unexpectadly right before the baby was due and decided not to go ahead with the adoption. My neighbor put in a plug for us, but I guess it was too late, the birth mother had already chosen another family.
I guess you never really know how you'll react to any given situation, but I can say with pretty good certanty that if we did (by some miracle) get pregnant, we would still move forward with adoption.
This is just one of many stories that have been shared with us. Some are inspiring and some a little annoying honestly. How many times have you been told..."now that you're adopting you'll get pregnant"? If you did get pregnant would you still adopt?
I have to say at this point, I think I would still go through with adoption. I am so firmly set down this path, that it would be very difficult to get off of it. Of course, it really is hard to say what you would do until it happens.
ReplyDeleteI've heard several versions of "these people we know..." I came up with the idea of saying "Well, we've been together for 17 years, so I think it would have happened by now" thinking that would at least stop the story. Nope. They just kept going on and on. Usually I just smile, but that day it really got to me.
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