Friday, October 22, 2010


I'm having this internal debate regarding privacy and sharing and openess on this inter web we are all a part of. First I'll start by saying I love reading blogs, other people's blogs help me to feel less alone when I read a story of someone that connects to my own experience I think there is something truly amazing about that. The internet is such a magical tool for all of us to create a more global and expansive community. That's why I started a blog of my own.

Lately I've been feeling at a loss. I am so excited about what is happening for us with our match and the adoption, but am having a hard time figuring out what to share on this very open public forum. I go back and forth between's no big deal I mean who is going to know who we are anyway and even it they did why would that matter? to feeling like I have an obligation to protect the virtual identity of our future child. It leaves me in a quandry.

The whole adoption experience is a unique one for sure. Not only are we becoming parents and navigating everything that comes with that but we are welcoming a whole set of people into our extended family. We need to consider the baby, but also the birth parents and their experience. It's complicated.

I'm curious how the rest of you have navigated this in your adoption? Did you ask your birth parents about it or just figure out what you thought was the right thing to do?


  1. As you may know, I am in the same boat with looking at how public to be. I found a discussion in the archives at Production, Not Reproduction, but I haven't read through them yet. I look forward to hearing more of your thoughts on it!

  2. We don't share Facebook or blogs with our birthparents. However, they don't share Facebook with us either. It works because we communicate via email and the things we speak about are more private and between us anyway.

    I would not be ashamed or alarmed if K. found my blog; I just prefer to leave it as is for now.